With the increasing popularity of social media, it has now become almost impossible to keep one out of it. Not only Facebook, being the biggest of the league and having more than one-third of the world’s population an account with it, but other applications as Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Snapchat and even WhatsApp are slowly gaining over us. The sedentary lifestyle has minimalized our physical activity and, addiction to social media has made it even worse.
The question often arises that is social media a real thing? The answer is yes and absolutely yes. Social media can reign over your thought-process, can make it or break it, can make you feel a total loser or a megalomaniac. Too much exposure often alienates you from real family and friends. It’s an irony that while you engage with your virtual contacts, you simultaneously are avoiding the real ones.
Then, should we abstain from social media platforms? My answer is, NO. As in other fields of life, here also, balancing is the keyword. Prudent use of social media can help you to make new friends, to keep in constant contact with the old ones, to share opinions with like-minded people, to exhibit your creativity to a larger audience.
If it is so, one may ask, then how does social media negatively impact our mental health?
In a review study, Prof D J Kuss and Prof M D Griffiths of Nottingham Trent University have clearly said– “The mass appeal of social networks on the Internet could potentially be a cause for concern, particularly when attending to the gradually increasing amounts of time people spend online.” The cause for concern is definitely there for some reasons.
1. Addiction
Social media addiction happens for different reasons. Extroverts find it as an excellent platform to reveal their thoughts to a lot of people, introverts get attracted as they can spill out their feelings in the form of writing, narcissists can show-off, haters can use it as a shield, bullies use it for sadistic pleasures and so on. Whatever the reason is, the effect remains the same — addiction. It gradually makes the addict glued to the screen, avoiding simple pleasures of life, suffering from frequent mood shifting. They start dwelling in a virtual bubble, a self-created comfort zone beyond which, their tolerance level becomes zero.
2. It Encourages Social Comparison
Social media puts one in the midst of a constant comparison, often unknowingly. People keep on sharing their moments of happiness, what they have bought, whether they are going abroad for a trip or about getting precious gifts from their spouses. They highlight the brightest sides leaving behind the mundane This, automatically, following human psychology, can put a person, unable to afford such luxuries, under tremendous pressure. She/he feels the urge to keep up with the Joneses and, the consequence could be a tragic one. It also initiates the feelings of jealousy and envy. As we, most of the times, only reveal our brighter sides on social media, we begin to think that grass is genuinely greener on the other side. This unhappiness and envy can even lead to depression. Teenagers suffer most from this, but almost all age-groups fall into the trap.
3. The Hunger For “Likes” and “Share”
Likes and Shares are perhaps more magical than abracadabra in the world of social media. While we post something, the number of likes provides us with an instant gratification, a feeling of wide social acceptance. The ephemerality of the fame initiated by likes encourages one to post more and more; it’s like a vicious circle– more posts, more likes, even more posts. Thus, addiction slowly starts to invade our mind and we begin to live virtually in a virtual world. A pretty good number of beauty apps, both for men and women and, the continuous technological advent of front cameras on mobiles to click the perfect flawless selfie encash this hunger for likes! They want us to feel good, each time and always, no matter how. We create a bubble around us, a comfort zone, beyond which we don’t even want or dare to venture out. Our ‘approval-seeking’ and ‘attention-seeking’ traits thus become more dominant with each passing day making us weak and coward as real human beings.
4. The Delusional Thought That Social Media Helps in Depression
We often think that spending some time on popular social media platforms could be therapeutic when we are not feeling good. The truth is, it makes us more depressive as we compare our conditions with others in our sub-conscious minds. Moreover, social media keeps the world’s negative news in clear view. Their strong algorithmic structure fetches more and more of such news if an individual, even accidentally or by curiosity clicks one such links. It\s better to restrain from social media when we feel depressed. Virtual world seldom helps us to get over our mental illness. On the other hand, several kinds of research have shown just the opposite.
The above discussion is not to preach that we should restrain ourselves from using various social media platforms. Social media is not an evil, it too has some positive attributions. The crux is, we should use our prudence while using it. Balancing between the real and the virtual world and occasional detoxification from the latter one (a short hiatus) can help a lot.
We should use social media according to our will and wisdom, don’t let them use you!
Wonderful explanations covering the psychological issues those play vital; roles behind the addiction.
Totally agree with your points.
Hunger for “likes” and praises are too prominent among the narcissists…which used to make me surprised earlier and presently it makes me laugh.
Thanks a lot, Jyotirmoy. Indeed, I’ve seen people doing weird things to garner more ‘likes’ 😀 Though, apparently, this looks hilarious but could lead to problems often.
I completely agree with your views. Several stats and research have established the same that social media is actually giving rise to many socio-economical problems along with erratic psychosomatic behavior. A very relevant post and really well researched. Thanks for sharing.
Very well-written post. Social media dramatically changed the way we communicate, socialise, and make and maintain friendships. While there are benefits to living in a digital world, there are also risks. Today’s youth miss out on critical social skills development when they spend the majority of their free time connected to and interacting through a screen. They can also get lost in a world of unrealistic comparisons, cyberbullying, and feeling left out.
Completely agree. Actually, people tend to pick up the negative things first and fast from any given choice that has both positive and negative aspects. Same has happened with social media. We have failed to use it to our advantage and instead have fallen its prey…
very interesting point of view!
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Thanks. Glad you liked it… 🙂
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Great post. Social media has caused much distress for too many,
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I agree. I’ve seen ample instances. Hope you are doing great. Thanks so much for stopping by… 🙂
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Wonderful explanations covering the psychological issues those play vital; roles behind the addiction.
Totally agree with your points.
Hunger for “likes” and praises are too prominent among the narcissists…which used to make me surprised earlier and presently it makes me laugh.
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Thanks a lot, Jyotirmoy. Indeed, I’ve seen people doing weird things to garner more ‘likes’ 😀 Though, apparently, this looks hilarious but could lead to problems often.
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I completely agree with your views. Several stats and research have established the same that social media is actually giving rise to many socio-economical problems along with erratic psychosomatic behavior. A very relevant post and really well researched. Thanks for sharing.
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Well said and I agree with your comment too. Thanks for sharing your views… 🙂
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Very well-written post. Social media dramatically changed the way we communicate, socialise, and make and maintain friendships. While there are benefits to living in a digital world, there are also risks. Today’s youth miss out on critical social skills development when they spend the majority of their free time connected to and interacting through a screen. They can also get lost in a world of unrealistic comparisons, cyberbullying, and feeling left out.
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Completely agree. Actually, people tend to pick up the negative things first and fast from any given choice that has both positive and negative aspects. Same has happened with social media. We have failed to use it to our advantage and instead have fallen its prey…
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