Today is International Women’s Day. There are many people out there voicing a diatribe against celebrating this particular day. Well, we all know this 8th day of March is no way different from any other day in the Gregorian calendar. Millions of female folk worldwide have neither heard nor have seen a day dedicated to their well-being. In many countries, the birth of a female child is looked upon as a curse. Even on this very day, a thousand girl would be raped and then brutally murdered, a hundred case of female foeticide would go unregistered, a billion girl would be forced to have sex without their consent. So, what’s the difference?
The difference, my dear ladies, could be YOU. This Women’s Day, let’s change our attitude towards each other. Let’s take a pledge that we shouldn’t point the finger at our next-door-neighbour who returns from her office at 10.oo pm, we would restrain ourselves to pass lewd remarks to that beautiful secretary in the office who serves her boss in the most normal way and has gotten a hike as a reward for her hard work. We would never question the femininity and fertility of that friend who is still to be a mother even after 10 years of her marriage. We should never put that single mother in a situation that could make her repent for her decision. We would never put a label on anyone.
We would not be afraid to say ‘no’ when we don’t want to have sex. We would neither be ashamed to say ‘yes’ when we want sex. Sex is a part of healthy, normal life.
Feminism doesn’t mean a belligerence towards our male counterparts. Feminism is the way to achieve the quintessence of womanhood; the concoction of mental and physical strength. We should never try to be ‘like a man’, we would rather be like a ‘human’.
The change lies in our hands, in our mindsets.
Respect each other; fat or thin, busty or petite, black or white. Don’t get camouflaged by the way the society has taught you to look at women. Every woman (and, every man) is beautiful in her (his) own way.
Last but not the least, don’t be ashamed of your body. This loud, overwhelming world wants us to eat shame, day in and day out. Our strength skulks under this shame.
Let’s first free our own selves from regressive norms and rituals. Shed that disabled mind from your able body. Let’s be the change first and, the rest will be a cakewalk.