There was a time when the term ‘working woman’ was not so much in vogue. Women used to stay at home taking care of household chores and family members. Time has changed, and women now share equal responsibilities along with men in every sphere of life. Most of the urban families now run on dual income basis where both husband and the wife take care of financial necessities. But surprisingly enough, the tendency to infantilize women is still very much in practice which states the fact that a section of the society still finds it fine to think that women are homely creatures and are made to perform daily household activities only. Thus, a high sense of inequality still exists between men and women in Indian households.
A recent survey conducted by Ariel India in association with AC Nielsen in Mumbai, Delhi, Chennai, Hyderabad & Bangalore, in November 2014 shows some egregious statistics! It says that 76% of Indian men feel, laundry is a woman’s job. Though sounds unbelievable but a harsh reality is that most men love to think themselves superior to women and so essential activities like cooking, cleaning and laundry are sub-standard activities according to them. But aren’t these the very foundation of a family life? Can you imagine attending a meeting wearing a soiled shirt and a cringed, dirty pair of trousers? Sounds nightmarish, isn’t it? I think one should be self-dependent and that includes sharing some responsibilities in household works too. Laundry has now become quite an easy job with the invention of washing machines and advanced washing powders so I think it’s the right time to raise the question whether it is only a woman’s job.
Behind Every Mom, Is A Dirty Basket Of LAUNDRY (well, not always)
I can remember during my childhood my father used to wash his own clothes on every alternative day after returning from the office. My brother picked up this habit from him and never in our family Maa was loaded with heaps of dirty clothes to wash at the weekends. Rather, it was me who was extremely lazy and most of the times I bothered my brother to wash my school uniforms which inevitably had ink stains.
My mother, though highly educated, preferred to remain at home. But these days most of us love to be financially independent and so have stepped outside. Women are seen everywhere today, they’re working with the same efficiency and responsibility as men. At the end of the day, we are returning home equally tired and fatigued. But the inequality resides at our homes. The mentioned survey also reveals that a staggering 85% of working women feel, that they have two jobs, one at work, and another at home. Most humbly I just want to say that there is no shame in lending a hand to your wife or mother in household activities. I’ve made my son understand the fact that putting his dirty T-shirts, jeans etc in the laundry basket is his duty and he should not throw them here and there. I even encourage him to learn the process of doing laundry with the washing machine. I believe it will help him to be a better and helpful family person in the future.
A Perfect Home Has Endless LOVE and LAUNDRY 😀
My husband, though loves to cook ( and he is a good cook) prefers to stay away from laundry. Soon after our marriage, one fine Sunday morning I confronted with a small hillock of dirty clothes, and my Sunday went awry understanding the fact, that, I had to clean them! Cleaning is not a single process you know, it also includes drying and ironing and then putting them neatly in cupboards. I did all the steps perfectly. In the evening, I asked her jokingly whether he would be able to do all the things which I can. His male ego boosted up and he readily said,”Yes, why not..anything and everything”. I calmly asked him to do the laundry for the next week. He took the challenge and understood the fact that it could really be a cumbersome task when done singlehandedly. From that day onwards, he always helped me with the laundry. Small household helps really bring great happiness. So though the survey says that more than 2/3rds of Indian men prefer to watch TV than to do the laundry, I can happily conclude that my man belongs to the minority in this case. He is among those 1/3rds who find it neither shameful nor useless to help me doing the laundry.
The stain, which is associated with normal household chores in the minds of millions of Indian men, is not easy to remove. Even an excellent ‘stain remover’ like Ariel would find it quite difficult. But times are changing and so are our male counterparts. I hope one day this inequality will be eradicated and laundry would no more be considered as women’s prerogative. Meanwhile, enjoy this short, effective video, keep smiling and ask yourself #IsLaundryOnlyAWomansJob?